Setting boundaries during the holidays
The holidays are often describe as “the most wonderful time of the year”, but this season can also be overwhelming as it often brings increased demands on our time and energy. Here are a few tips on how you can manage your energy without compromising your enjoyment of the holidays:
1. Define Your Limits: Take some time to reflect on what you need to feel balanced and rested. This might include setting aside specific times for self care or just to unwind, or limiting the number of social events you attend.
2. Communicate Clearly: Once you've identified your boundaries, communicate them with your family and friends using “I” statements to express your needs. For example, “I need some quiet time in the evenings to recharge, so I’ll be taking a break from gatherings after 8 pm”. If you’re defining boundaries as a family this might sound like, “We are only able to commit to one extended holiday event this year”.
3. Plan Ahead: Schedule downtime and self-care activities in advance. Whether it’s a morning walk, reading a book, or practicing meditation, having these activities planned can help you stay grounded. This is especially important for parents or guardians who are juggling a multitude of activities or commitments.
4. Be Flexible: Remember that it’s okay to adjust your boundaries and needs if needed. The goal is to maintain your well-being, so be kind to yourself if plans change or if you have a change of heart. You can also redefine what the holidays mean to you. It’s not a one-size-fits-all season. Don’t focus so much on what the holidays look like; focus on how they feel.
5. Practice Saying No: It’s important to know that it’s okay to say no. Politely declining invitations or requests that don't align with your well-being allows you to manage your energy and maintain a positive holiday experience. Try saying these phrases as practice: “Unfortunately, I can’t make it this time, but I appreciate the invitation”, “Unfortunately, I can’t participate this time around, but thank you for thinking of me”, “My calendar’s at capacity, but I’ll let you know if that changes”.
By prioritizing self-care and clearly communicating your boundaries, you can enjoy the holiday season more fully so you’re ready to start 2025 with a strong mindset and sense of well-being.
Are you setting boundaries this holiday season to prioritize well-being?
~Kate
