ways to build community

"Everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager." This statement keeps popping up online for me as I've spent the last few weeks researching belonging, community, and the need for human connection as a salve to our increasingly digital world. Maybe it's not that we don't want to be a villager; rather, it's that we've forgotten how to be one.

Our online world gives us the illusion of connection without the obligations of community. We can passively scroll through people's curated online lives (often complete strangers) without actively participating in them...and loneliness is now considered epidemic. The salve to isolation and loneliness is, and has always been, connection. So, how do we grow community and create a sense of belonging?

In positive psychology, we talk a lot about mindfulness; the art of noticing and paying attention to the present moment. This can also extend to paying

attention to who’s around you. This might be your neighbour who hasn’t been outside in a while...check in on them, drop off dinner, shovel their driveway (if you are able to), or offer to pick up their groceries or any necessary items for them.

Initiating is also important here. Reach out to a family member or friend you haven't checked in on this week and ask how they are, plan a get together with loved ones, or host a weekly walk or coffee meet up. It doesn't have to be a big event or cost any money at all, it's really just about reaching out.

Try to be consistent. Showing up regularly, even in small ways, shows others you care. This could look like a weekly phone call or even a monthly dinner. You get to connect and have something to look forward to after a busy week.

Connection is also about reciprocity; it's a two-way street. Often it's easier for us to offer support or help than it is to receive it, but try to remember that building a sense of community requires both to thrive and maintain the well-being of everyone. We all benefit when we take care of ourselves and each other.

And let’s remember to be "all in" when we connect with others. Put your phone away, listening intently, and show that you're fully present.

How do you build connection in your community?

~Kate

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